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Superego

“The ability to overcome obsessive discipline didn’t happen in one day; it took me years. In therapy and in my minimal spiritual practice I learned to tell my superego to back off and leave me alone; I want to enjoy my freedom.”

Superego is not the same as consciousness; the former punishes us and the latter guides us.

“I stopped listening to the overseer inside me who demands compliance and performance with the voice of my grandfather. The race uphill is over; now I stroll calmly in the land of intuition, which has turned out to be the best environment for writing.” —Isabel Allende, The Soul of a Woman

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Be Open

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“Just as you cannot understand the path of the wind or the mystery of a tiny baby growing in its mother’s womb, so you cannot understand the activity of God, who does all things. Plant your seed in the morning and keep busy all afternoon, for you don’t know if profit will come from one activity or another—or maybe both.” —Ecclesiastes 11:5-6 NLT

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Instinctual Criatura

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“So imagistically—be you a Black wolf, a Northern Gray, a Southern Red, or an Arctic White—you are the quintessential instinctual criatura. Although some might really prefer you behave yourself and not climb all over the furniture in joy or all over people in welcome, do it anyway. Some will draw back from you in fear or disgust. Your lover, however, will cherish this aspect of you—if he or she be the right lover for you.”

—Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Ph.D.

Wild creatures behave instinctually.

They react to the slightest movement of air, water, and earth.

They naturally do not trust when they sense something that threatens their safety, but otherwise they can be playful and determined.

This behavior is fascinating to unpack. What does it mean? We used to be wild, too.

Those who have been hurt badly may instinctively throw up walls to protect themselves, just like skittish wild creatures.

How can we get through the concern for safety to the playful and determined spirit that is so enjoyable about someone we love from afar?

Time. Patience. Understanding.

The right lover never gives up.