When the energy swirling around us culminated, I could decide to ride the shame spiral or not. I chose not to ride it. It’s not that wish to be defiant, it’s just that I don’t feel ashamed and I want to be authentic.
I admit that I feel things strongly when I feel them. I am diligent about managing my big emotions when they get big. And while I have the capacity to demonstrate empathy for the feelings of others, I might not always feel the same way as someone I care deeply about. And that is a little painful for us, I think.