“So imagistically—be you a Black wolf, a Northern Gray, a Southern Red, or an Arctic White—you are the quintessential instinctual criatura. Although some might really prefer you behave yourself and not climb all over the furniture in joy or all over people in welcome, do it anyway. Some will draw back from you in fear or disgust. Your lover, however, will cherish this aspect of you—if he or she be the right lover for you.”
—Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Ph.D.
Wild creatures behave instinctually.
They react to the slightest movement of air, water, and earth.
They naturally do not trust when they sense something that threatens their safety, but otherwise they can be playful and determined.
This behavior is fascinating to unpack. What does it mean? We used to be wild, too.
Those who have been hurt badly may instinctively throw up walls to protect themselves, just like skittish wild creatures.
How can we get through the concern for safety to the playful and determined spirit that is so enjoyable about someone we love from afar?
Time. Patience. Understanding.
The right lover never gives up.